The Core Truth: Owning a home is not a mathematical investment comparison; it is the ultimate survival tool for family stability. In a world of job insecurity and fake, debt-driven wealth, buying your own roof is the only way to avoid humiliation and save the honour of family, Everything else comes later.
The question everybody is facing nowadays is whether to buy a home or rent one. The abundant opinions of social media influencers—who have zero real-world experience—only make the decision more difficult. Let’s not waste our time on their Excel sheets and mathematical theories. Let’s get straight to the point.
What is a Home, Really?
First, we need to understand what a home actually is. When I talk about a home, people always picture themselves in Shahrukh Khan’s Mannat with a swimming pool and two, three dogs. Stop there.
Even a single room, a 1BHK, or a half-finished structure you build piece by piece over the years is a home. It gives immense safety to your life. Not your finance—your life. Finance and life are two different things; understand that first. It will decide your future well-being, your mental peace, your health, your status—everything.
The first asset anyone needs to buy is not an iPhone or a car; it must be a home. If anyone forgets the slogan of India: Roti, Kapda, Makan. It is not iPhone, car, and mutual funds.
The Brutal Truth About Affordability
People feel that paying for a home is a burden. It isn’t. Let’s be brutally honest: if you cannot afford to put money aside piece by piece for a home—whether that is an EMI or strictly saving your cash in a bank—you cannot truly afford anything else. You are poor.
- Anyone who does not own a home should not be buying a smartphone that costs more than ₹5,000.
- You should not be buying a car.
Look around society today—how many people flash expensive phones, wear branded clothes, and drive cars on EMI, but do not own a single brick of their own house? They are living an illusion of wealth. Recent data shows that a large portion of household borrowing in India is still directed toward consumption rather than asset creation like housing. If you don’t have a home, you are financially naked. Everything else comes after home only.
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The “Settlement” Trap and the Village Mindset
Why are people so confused about a basic necessity? Because they have replaced the necessity of owning a home with the idea of buying one “later.” People today have the false impression that buying a house should only be done at age 40, after they have “settled” in life—meaning after they get all their promotions and reach a certain salary.
There is a major social change in Indian society that nobody is talking about. Earlier, we used to live in our village or small town with our parents. We worked near our hometown and rented a small room only when work required us to travel. After a few years, we would always return to our ancestral home.
People still keep that same mindset today, but reality has changed. They work in completely different cities, crossing states to live in places like Delhi or Bangalore. Yet, they keep their old mindset: renting small rooms, paying in pieces, and thinking the home of their parents is theirs. They falsely believe they don’t need to own a house in the city where they actually spend their lives.
The Fake Wealth of Cities: A Societal Observation
In the cities, with the salaries they are getting, people first want to enjoy the consumer goods they didn’t have in the village. They save little, and whatever they save goes mostly into mutual funds or a ₹2,000 SIP. All we see is numbers in a bank app—not even cash at home. They flash credit cards in shops, but nobody nowadays knows the difference between money, cash, assets, and goods. Is gold an asset, a commodity, or just jewellery? Even educated people with fancy degrees can’t categorize it properly.
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Observe what happens when this fake wealth meets reality. Let’s be clear: being asked to vacate a rental home because of a dispute with a landlord is not a real crisis. I have seen my friends get into an argument with their landlord and change houses in a single day. You can always easily find another house for rent. That is just an inconvenience.
The real tragedy—the true humiliation that destroys families—is eviction after loss of income.
Imagine a 45-year-old professional who faces a sudden job loss or a business de-growth. His salary stops. The savings evaporate in weeks just trying to survive. Then, the first of the month arrives, and the landlord demands rent. When you cannot pay, you are thrown out on the street. That is what breaks a person’s courage.
No amount of money in a mutual fund protects your family from that specific indignity. If you own your house, losing your job or facing a business downturn does not destroy you. You don’t have to ask anyone for shelter. You can conserve your remaining savings by cutting costs—removing the maid, selling furniture—but you will have a roof over your head and your family stays safe.
The Global Warning: What Happens When a Society Rents
With the changing world, job security is going to be a myth and affordable housing is already becoming a dream. If you think you can just rent forever, look at the brutal reality of what has happened in England, Europe, and New York. This is not theory; look at the actual data.
In London: Rents have skyrocketed so violently that average renters are handing over massive chunks of their entire take-home salary just to keep a roof over their heads. Landlords are increasing rents by hundreds of pounds overnight, and tenants have zero power to stop it.
In New York City: The average rent for an apartment crossed the $5,000 mark, forcing people with good, stable salaries to compete intensely with each other for tiny, broken rooms.
In Europe: Look at cities like Amsterdam, Berlin, and Dublin. They are facing a severe housing shortage where demand far exceeded the supply. There are simply not enough homes to live in. And what did the governments do? They raised their hands. They openly admitted they cannot do anything to fix the supply overnight, and they cannot stop the inflation of building materials.
This is the exact future waiting for you if you rely on renting. If you wait until you reach 40, you will be caught in this exact same trap in Indian metros. The rents will be brutally high, the home prices will be out of reach, the inflation in building materials will make construction impossible, and the corruption in the housing sector will be waiting for you. You will be squeezed by society. Buy your home early, or become a victim of this system later.
The Hard Reality of Insurance and Family Survival
Social media experts talk endlessly about term insurance. They say, If something happens to you, your family will get huge Insurance money. Let’s look at how this actually plays out in society. You think some massive corporate company, where you don’t know anyone personally, is going to hand over abundant money to your family easily after you are gone? In reality, claims are investigated, delayed, and fought over. Even worse, your own brothers might fight your widow in court for pennies of that money.
Now, look at what happens if you happen to use a home loan. If you pass away, the housing loan department will process your insurance. They will not do this out of a sense of duty, or because of the goodness of their hearts, or because your family submitted the documents perfectly. They will do it strictly because they need the insurance money to close your housing loan so it is not declared an NPA (Non-Performing Asset). The bank fights the battle for you because their money is on the line.
Even if you don’t have high term insurance, if you own your home without a home loan, your family does not have to move an inch. They get time to settle, conserve their savings, and prioritize their choices. Even with a basic job and a conservative ex-gratia from your company, they can move on. Otherwise, even with abundant insurance, your family has to move from here and there, and all the insurance amount will evaporate. Save them from the humiliation of moving in with relatives who have their own problems.
Misconception About Registration Charges and Taxes: The True Costs
People complain about the high costs of buying. Yes, if you buy an apartment, there is stamp duty, brokerage. But what if you buy a plot and construct your own home? People think they are saving money by waiting, but they ignore the devastating inflation of building materials.
Look at the markets. The cost of cement, steel, labor, and sand has skyrocketed. After you reach 40, the rents will be high, the land prices will be high, and the inflation in building materials will guarantee that you cannot construct a decent home. And that is without even mentioning the black money and corruption in the housing sector. By the time you are ready, everyone and everything will squeeze you.
Work Hard, Save, and Buy Early
You do not need fancy financial tricks. Safeguarding money is easy nowadays. Starting at the age of 23 on a ₹30,000 salary, you can simply keep ₹10,000 per month aside in your own bank account. Work hard, save your money, and buy your home. But who tells you this? Your parents expect you to return to their village. Your friends want you to have an advanced phone, gaming system. Influencers want you to buy credit cards. By the time you reach 35, you realize your village house is not yours to own. You finally start discussing buying a home with your wife, but the cost of the house has doubled, and the distance from your desirable location has doubled too.
Never hesitate to buy a home. It does not have to be a luxury apartment in the city center. It can be a basic house you build over years. The earlier you start, the lesser you feel the burden. By the time you need money for your children’s studies, you can just put your house as collateral and get an education loan. Home ownership is fundamentally a decision about stability, long-term security, and building a predictable environment for your family. Financial markets fluctuate, careers evolve, and job security is becoming a myth. A home is the only stable base from which you can face those uncertainties.
Don’t leave your family to the mercy of corporate insurance companies, or fighting relatives. Be the wall that protects them. Open a separate bank account today, put your first instalment in it, and start laying your foundation.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is a home a better investment than mutual funds or SIPs?
A home is not a mathematical investment comparison; it is the ultimate survival tool for family stability. While mutual funds show numbers in a bank app, they do not provide a physical roof or protect your family from the humiliation of eviction during a loss of income . At WealthDharma, we believe the first asset must be a home, as finance and life are two different things that decide your future well-being and mental peace.
When is the best time to buy a first home?
Waiting until age 40 to “settle” is a trap because the reality of Indian cities has shifted; people now spend their lives in metros far from their ancestral homes. By the time you are ready to buy later in life, skyrocketing rents and the devastating inflation of building materials like cement and steel will make construction nearly impossible. Buying early prevents you from being squeezed by the system and ensures you own your foundation before prices double.
Can I afford a home if I am only earning a basic salary?
Yes, because even a single room, a 1BHK, or a half-finished structure you build piece-by-piece over the years counts as a safe home. If you are currently spending on expensive smartphones or cars on EMI while you do not own a single brick of your own, you are living an illusion of wealth. At WealthDharma, we believe that if you cannot put money aside for a roof, you are “financially naked” and vulnerable to reality.
How does home ownership protect my family better than term insurance?
Corporate insurance claims can be delayed, investigated, or fought over by relatives, but a home loan creates a different kind of safety net. Banks are incentivized to process housing loan insurance quickly to ensure the asset does not become an NPA, effectively fighting the battle for your family’s shelter. Owning your home ensures your family does not have to move an inch, giving them the time and dignity to settle and prioritize their future.
Why do social media influencers advise renting over buying?
Most influencers lack real-world experience and rely on Excel sheets and mathematical theories that ignore the actual necessity of physical ownership. They promote “fake wealth” through consumer goods and credit cards, ignoring the myth of job security and the catastrophic housing shortages seen in cities like London and New York. WealthDharma rejects these digital illusions in favor of the raw, rustic reality of “Roti, Kapda, aur Makan”.